EXHAUSTED TO EMPOWERED:

Creating Boundaries to Regain Control Over Your Time and Energy


Your previous attempts at creating work/life balance have only left you more exhausted than when you started.

If you haven’t hit your breaking point yet, it’s only a matter of time before you get there. The way you’re operating currently just isn’t sustainable.


You’re all over the place.

Your job is controlling your life: you’re so overwhelmed you can barely think about anything besides your to-do list, you’re working nights, weekends, vacations and there is no reprieve. Don’t get me wrong, you may be getting promotions and raises, but you feel awful - you’re exhausted mentally and physically and you just can’t do it anymore.

I get it, I worked at Google for 6 years and saw how easy it is to slide into working NONSTOP.

I worked in technical support which meant that customers needed something from me at all hours of every day. The default mode was to be always connected, responsive and available.

I ran into the same problem when I started running my business full-time a few years ago. I was so excited and loving what I was doing... and 6 months in I realized I hadn't disconnected my brain from work for a single weekend. I realized there was such a fine line between working a lot because you’re excited and just working too much. Not allowing myself to mentally disconnect for 6 months was entirely unsustainable and I had to make some drastic changes to my schedule and my mindset to redraw my boundaries.

You are far from alone AND it doesn’t have to be this way.


How many of these sound familiar?
 

  • You start doing your actual job when you get home from work because you’re dragged along by whatever the day’s/week’s fire is or distracted by requests from colleagues

  • You may feel satisfied and fulfilled by your work itself, but you know you’re doing way too much of it, and don't feel like you have an identity outside of work

  • You haven’t grown out of the “first job syndrome” where you say yes to everything because you’re new and want to appear helpful! Saying no makes you feel like a bad person and like you don’t care

  • You may have tried to set boundaries early on but let "extraordinary" circumstances break them down (and they never got reinstated)

  • You admire other people who are able to set boundaries but you don’t have the confidence to do so yourself. You worry you won’t be respected or seen as committed and helpful

  • You regularly feel cornered into saying yes to your colleagues and manager, only to backtrack a few days later (or hope they don’t notice when you never deliver)

  • You’re envious of other people who are doing fun stuff while working and wonder how they have time or mental energy to do that. The only thing you can do when you get sleep or watch TV because you have zero energy

  • You also crave personal development, you would be happier if you could develop in other ways outside of work

  • You have a stack of books you want to read, a list of bookmarked online classes you’ve been meaning to watch or a car in the garage that you want to learn how to repair

  • Your manager (and/or colleagues) are even telling you that you need to do less, say no to more things, prioritize and be strategic with your time -- but you just can’t seem to do it
     

This is a slippery slope that ends with leaving you only one option - burnout so badly that all you can do is quit.

 
quit.jpg
 

But here’s the thing:

-- if you don’t learn how to set boundaries and protect your own time and energy, the same thing will happen in your next job. And the next. And the next. If you don’t take charge of your own time, there’s a long line of people who are happy to take charge of it for you!
 

And, there’s another more insidious default future.
 

You’re worried about being seen as unhelpful by your colleagues so you’re doing more and saying yes... but what if that behavior is the exact thing that is holding you back from being chosen for more impactful work, strategic projects and leadership opportunities? Your lack of boundaries may be keeping you from being the leader you want to be.

If you’re ready to accept that your distraction by low-impact work and nonstop working won’t get you where you want to be, I am ready to help.


Tell me about the program


I want you to show up to work feeling empowered, strategic and well-rested (this one is bold, I know). I created this 4-week course to help you gain back control of your own time and energy.

Join me and you’ll be able to:

  • Discover and communicate what boundaries YOU need to feel good

  • Give yourself a break and let other people solve their own problems

  • Gain confidence to set boundaries and see them as a sign of respect instead of a sign that you don’t care

  • Say NO to more low-impact work, so you can say YES to what really matters

  • Do your work, while at work (not at home)

  • Remove yourself from meetings you don’t need to be in

  • Have energy to do something other than sleep or watch TV when you get home

  • Have the confidence to talk to your manager about things that stress you out

  • Make headway on that stack of books on your bedside table (or any other personal projects that are gathering dust)

  • Redesign your schedule to help you regain control of your time

  • Design your new identity, where you're not exhausted, but still get fulfillment from doing a great job at work

  • Go to work and feel empowered to set boundaries. Implement actionable steps to control your time at work. Feel like you can DO something about your situation


EXHAUSTED TO EMPOWERED will help you do all of that and more.


The biggest change I’ve seen in myself after working with Lindsay is having more confidence in saying “no”, specifically to my manager. I am also starting to shift my identity at work from being someone who is helpful to being someone who is strategic and understands I should be working on projects that have the biggest business impact. I am no longer worried about letting people down!
— Cameron
 You. Empowered.

Let me be clear, there is no right way to do boundaries or balance. Boundaries have to feel good to you. 

I have zero of the answers of what will work for you or what's best for you (I know, bummer).

What I DO have is frameworks, stories to inspire, tools to shift your mindset and questions to ask so that you can find what YOU want. This will be 4 weeks of experimentation to build something that feels incredibly empowering and sustainable for you.


What's Included?


The program runs for 4 weeks in March 2018 and will include:

  • 4 live teaching calls where I will teach techniques for regaining control of your time and energy to be implemented throughout the week (Tuesdays 5-6pm PST - 3/6, 3/13, 3/20, 3/27)

  • 4 live coaching calls where I will provide coaching on the actions you’re taking, answer any questions you have, help you generate ideas if you’re stuck and support you through making the techniques a practical reality (Thursdays 5-6pm PST - 3/8, 3/15, 3/22, 3/29)

  • 1 30-minute 1:1 call with me to get tailored help for your specific situation

  • Action prompts each week to put your ideas into action

  • Unlimited email support so that I can support you through the actions you’re taking in real time

  • Access to a private Facebook group where you’ll get support, ideas and inspiration from the other 14 participants in the program

  • Optional accountability buddy! I'll pair up anyone who is interested in having a designated buddy to keep in touch with during the week and get even more support

 

And here’s the breakdown of what we’ll focus on in each call:

 

Module 1: Noise, non-negotiables and a vision to start anew

  • Acknowledge the external pressures that impact you, discover your own list of non-negotiables, learn a new framework for thinking about problems and create a vision of what you want balance to look like

Module 2: Say No. Do Less. Communicate with your colleagues.

  • Change your mindset on saying “no”, learn frameworks to communicate with colleagues about expectations and prioritization, stop overgiving, and identify who you let steal your time

Module 3: Disconnect and dedicate time to life outside work

  • Practice disconnecting (in whatever way feels good to you), make headway on any personal projects that are collecting dust, recharge, revive your non-work identity and make fun happen

Module 4: Scheduling and celebration

  • Reassess what meetings/projects you need to be involved in, redesign your schedule to increase control of your time and build in some celebration!


How much?

$997 $549 - For the 15 participants in the pilot round, I’m offering a significant discount in exchange for feedback. The next round the price will bump up to the full $997.

If you need to split up payments, shoot me an email and let’s chat about it (coaching@alifeofoptions.com)


I'm in! How do I sign up?

If you’re ready to take back control of your time and energy, there are 15 12 spots left:


For the first time I feel like I can say I enjoy aspects of my work and can focus on them as much as possible. Nothing has changed at my company, but how I react has. I explain things calmly and respectfully and am firm and for the first time I feel I am beginning to get the outcomes I have wanted.
— Patrick
reflective.jpg

FAQs

  • I’m already working nights, weekends and vacations, what if I don’t have the time or energy to do even more work?

    • I hear that. You’re already exhausted and you don’t have time to dedicate two hours a week to a program. That’s true AND something has to give. What you’re doing currently isn’t getting it under control or giving you any relief. Committing to this program will be your first action towards regaining control of your own time and energy. You’ll have to block off time for the calls and maybe say no to a few things at work. Once you commit, every action taken will hopefully give you more time - saying no, reorganizing your schedule however possible, having conversations about expectations. If you can invest the two hours per week, you’ll quickly start getting some time back (and remember that the alternative is burning out or being perpetually stuck in reactive mode, neither of which are sustainable)

  • Will other people see me failing/struggling?

    • I’ve been running workshops for a few years now and the thing people love MOST about the workshop is getting to be with other people who are in the same boat they are. Sharing with a group has the effect of normalizing what feels so unique and lonely. Participants find it calming and reassuring to be with other people who are struggling with the same things. To know that you’re not alone and be supported by other people who understand your struggle is incredibly powerful.

  • I kinda know my boundaries and what I need to do, why do I need to work with someone?

    • Accountability is a powerful force. If you haven’t achieved the kind of balance you’re looking for, being supported by a group of people who are in the same boat in an incredibly powerful way to commit to taking those actions. If you’re not incredible clear and vocal about your boundaries, you can’t expect anyone else to follow them

  • No one else at my company has boundaries, how I can set them and expect them to work?

    • It won’t be easy, it will take a lot of courage AND it’s necessary to avoid burnout and/or quitting. Also, think about the impact you might be able to have on others around you by standing up for your own time and energy. Become a leader by being the first to do so, it’s entirely possible that everyone around you is also struggling as much as you are and would be grateful for a positive role model.

  • How do you know what boundaries are acceptable at a company? Will setting boundaries get me fired?

    • This program will include a lot of tiny experiments and actions that will help you feel out what is appropriate in your current role/company/industry. You’ll practice voicing your needs in respectful and direct ways and there is the possibility that you’ll find a dealbreaker between what you need and the requirements of your company and industry. That will ultimately give you more awareness and power to make a decision that feels good to you.

  • I’ve worked with you individually in your “From Stuck to Inspired” 3-month program, does this group program apply to me?

    • My 3-month program focuses more on finding a job that fits (learning about your values, strengths, etc) and less on setting boundaries so if you’re struggling with your time and energy, this program is great for you. This program includes many more techniques about how to achieve balance and also includes the support of 14 other participants!

  • Why would I pay for this service?

    • Having skin in the game is a powerful way to keep commitments to yourself. It also gives you support and inspiration from others who are going through the same difficult and exciting process of setting boundaries.

  • What’s your refund policy?

    • I’m offering no refunds for the pilot round and let me tell you why. One of my jobs is to hold you accountable to what you want to achieve and help you fiercely guard this time for yourself so you can get work under control. I am committed to you getting great results and I want YOU in and committed. I know how easy it is for you to give up on yourself and your needs and let other people command your time. Let this be the first step in standing up for yourself and regaining control of your time and energy.

       


Lindsay was awesome to work with! She pulled insecurities out, framed realistic views and shared loads of knowledge and helpful information. She got me out of a state of inertia and engaged. I have my confidence back.
— Kimberly


Time with Lindsay is well spent. I’m glad I enrolled when I did. I went from feeling exhausted and not motivated all the time to feeling reinvigorated, so much so I’ve become a force of nature.
— Katie
joy.jpg


Whether you have a supportive environment or not, it’s nice having someone new with a fresh perspective be in your corner sharing tools to help you become stronger on your own.
— Nancy