We're continually uncovering myths about kindness in our little secret society or places where kindness feels stuck or icky, based on what we've been taught by society.

One we discovered pretty early on is that self-kindness is one of the hardest kindnesses to give. It feels selfish! It doesn't count as kindness! It's easier to do kindness for others!

Buuuuuut, turns out (from multiple books), self-kindness is actually incredibly important.

Here was a quote from the book Keys to Kindness on the topic...

"Simply put, people are better able to be kind to others if they start by being kind to themselves."

Or if you like this quote...

"If you think it's important to be kind to people...

remember you are a person too, so don't neglect being kind to yourself."

I can't really argue with that logic.

But notice what gets stirred up in you when we start talking about self-kindness. Anything you can learn from discomfort if it shows up?

We've created a new framework to help us practice self-kindness as a community and I want to share it with you so you can practice with us.

On the first week of every month, we check in on the following questions:

Self-Kindness Questions:

Do I talk to myself with the same care that I use with a loved one?
Do I protect time/space for the things I need?
Do I offer myself the same grace I offer others?
Do I extend the same understanding that I offer others?
Do I prioritize the things that make me feel good?
How did I respond to myself the last time I made a mistake?

If those questions don't resonate with you, I invite you to create your own!

What's important is that you see self-kindness, nay, Unreasonable self-kindness, as just as valuable as kindness towards others.

- Lindsay

P.S. My next workshop is on Tuesday October 28th! Come learn even more myths about kindness and practice doing kindness in community with us. I've made the price point incredibly accessible (with a BOGO as well!) so grab your ticket at unreasonablekindness.eventbrite.com.